By nature, children are very active and mobile. They are interested in the world around them, they learn it themselves and with the help of adults, but at the same time maintain their own activity.
Is it worth scolding the child for the fact that it is difficult for him to sit in class and independently diagnose him with ADHD? I don’t think so. But it is necessary to understand why he behaves this way, because he just might like another child who is sitting out of his field of vision. Or maybe he’s just not interested in the subject.
Should the child be transferred to another school or class if the teacher “diagnoses” that your child is lazy or does not have enough intelligence to learn in a normal class? It is not necessary, but after clarifying with the child why he behaves this way, and without finding out the reasons, the child should be examined. This is usually done by a neurologist in a polyclinic. Don’t take your child to a psychiatrist! You will also hurt him, and you yourself, in your own unconscious, will put a brand on the child.
It is not necessary to make a diagnosis yourself, but to know how symptoms can manifest themselves or to know how to help a child who has a diagnosis of ADHD, every parent is simply obliged. After all, if you thoroughly study the problem of ADHD, you will become more calm yourself. You will know for sure that your child is not lazy and not more stupid than the rest of the students in the class. He just needs a little more attention than the others, and what other children do in five minutes, he does in seven. Knowing the problem, rather than denying it, will help you, and through your emotional state and your child, understand how this can and should be handled.
In this article I will describe:
what is ADHD?
and why is this a problem,
symptoms of ADHD,
problems associated with ADHD.
What is ADHD?
ADHD is a neurological and behavioral disorder. The main signs of ADHD include hyperactivity, problems with concentration and impulsivity.
It is important to understand that each child with ADHD has its own set of manifestations. What is pronounced in one may be completely absent in the other. It is also worth considering that for school it can be one set of symptoms, for the house another, for games on the street the third, and may not appear at all.
As a rule, the primary symptoms occur before the age of 5-6 years. But there are cases when the diagnosis of ADHD was made already in adulthood (after 20 or more years).
Symptoms of ADHD
The most frequent and, perhaps, the main symptoms of attention deficit disorder are attention disorders, hyperactivity, impulsivity, difficulties in the sequence of actions that require focused attention – with a lightning-fast reaction to the situation, easy distraction from the required task.
It is almost impossible for them to follow the instructions, the child is restless and talkative, does not listen to the answer, asks a question, constantly makes the same mistakes, can run aimlessly for hours. Characterized by negligence, forgetfulness, frivolity, constant loss of necessary and not very things.
In most cases, children with ADHD do not notice the obvious danger, as a result of which they are often injured. As teenagers, they unreasonably risk their own lives to assert themselves in front of their peers. Also in adolescence, children with ADHD are more likely to engage in deviant behavior. This is not the whole list of symptoms in ADHD.
Recently, specialists working and conducting research in the field of ADHD have observed new features:
“The phenomenon of a broken mirror” – when writing, the child’s letters look mirror-inverted;
“The phenomenon of sliding eyes” – when reading, the child loses a line, even after reading it aloud, there is a forgetting/misunderstanding of what is read;
“The phenomenon of absence of presence (“not here”) ” – short-term switching off of attention, the child does not remember fragments of the conversation, even if they were talking to him, and he was looking at you at that moment, forgetting what the teacher was talking about.
Causes of ADHD
Unfortunately, the exact cause of ADHD has not been established. But to date, experts working on the problem of ADHD have identified some of the causes. These include:
genetic predisposition (ADHD is often a hereditary disease);
alcohol, drug dependence of the mother (regardless of whether the use continued during pregnancy or not);
use of certain medications during pregnancy;
infectious disease of the mother during pregnancy;
head injuries (especially frontal lobe) in children;
exposure to toxic substances in early childhood;
The following factors lead to an increased risk of ADHD:
children born with a small weight,
chronic diseases of the mother, severe infection,
immunological incompatibility of the mother with the fetus,
various complications of pregnancy (premature, transient, prolonged labor, the threat of miscarriage, cesarean section, stimulation of labor);
birth complications (entanglement of the umbilical cord, incorrect presentation of the fetus), leading to intracranial hemorrhages, spinal injuries of the newborn, asphyxia.
This also includes diseases in infancy that occur with a high temperature;
taking strong medications.
Treatment for ADHD
For the treatment of children with ADHD, a comprehensive approach is used (a set of individually selected methods). This includes both medical treatment (prescribed in extreme cases) and psychotherapeutic work, which is sufficient in the early stages of detecting ADHD (art therapy works well with such children).
Also very effective is the neuropsychological approach, neuropsychologists conduct a series of exercises selected for each child individually, taking into account his particular feature of the course of ADHD.
It is necessary to include the whole family in the work, so you can not do without family therapy. If the occurrence of ADHD is associated with chemical changes in the mother or child, a nutritional approach is necessary (filling the lack of certain vitamins, macro – / microelements). If birth/postpartum injuries are possible, a syndromic approach is necessary (correction of the consequences of birth injuries).
With a responsible approach to the problem of ADHD, the opportunity to compensate for violations is very great, which will help your children to live fully and realize themselves in the outside world in the future.
Is it worth not paying attention to the presence of a diagnosis or signs of ADHD
I don’t think you should. Do not console yourself that you just have a very active child, and in life it will come in handy. The presence of ADHD does not pass without a trace for the child’s psyche. It is difficult for him to concentrate, to get good reviews about his work, his achievements. They try not to invite him to take part in various social events.
Over time, he may develop a sense of inferiority and lower self-esteem, go into a depressive state, which can end in prolonged depression. Or the tendency to deviant behavior will develop into criminal tendencies. It is important to understand that the presence of ADHD in a child is not anyone’s fault, but this does not mean that you should ignore ADHD.
How parents can help with ADHD
The success of ADHD treatment depends very much on the parents, because you are the first to react to what is happening to your child and contact a specialist. Not a child will notice their own problems and not a specialist will come to you – you will be the first to understand that the child has problems.
It is very difficult when a child has ADHD, so the maximum participation in the therapy process should be taken by all family members. One mom or dad is just very difficult, and above all mentally, to cope with such a baby. The desire to take up the belt occurs very often, but the belt will not help.
The first thing you should do is learn what ADHD is. And it is better to do it according to the literature that the specialist will offer you. Remember that your child is special, and what is good for one child may not suit yours at all.
Keep in touch with teachers at school, explain to them that your child has ADHD, and that it is not necessary to punish him for every reason, but rather to call you and explain yourself together. When walking on the playground, do not isolate the child, talk to other parents directly about the fact that your child has ADHD, that it is not contagious and is not dangerous for the mental and physical health of their children. Connect with other parents who have children diagnosed with ADHD.
Create a corner for the child in the house where he could be in his own house, even if it is a place under the table behind the tablecloth, but he must know that he will be safe there.
Encourage your child to learn what is most interesting to him, even if it is enough for 5-10 minutes. Praise him for a job well done and refrain from lecturing him about bad behavior or irresponsible behavior. Encourage him to come to you for help, make a list of things to do, and always talk about things you’ve done.
Remember, the main rule in any business is “from simple to complex”. Split tasks into several parts, increasing their duration and complexity over time.